June 06, 2017
It's day 1 and we resolved to stick to a new diet, and by day 7, we ended up splurging on Mc Donald’s Fried Chicken. This goes same when we decided to watch our expenses, but end up buying something that we really didn’t need.
Many times, when we resolved to live consciously in the pursuit of our goals, we tend to end up slid back into apathy.
Ever wondered why this takes place?
We tend to break our promises due to some non-conscious ambivalence that gets in the way of fulfilling our objective. And this mostly dues to the fact that part of us never really wanted to do what we were committing to in the first place.
Since our brain works in a common way of seeking pleasure and avoiding pain, any commitment that involves us out of our comfort zone, often fails. And that is when our brain starts to blame the failure due to external circumstances.
Hence, the question remains, if humans are prone to break the commitments, what can we do about it?
Here are 7 tips, on what we can do to improvise while making a commitment to ourselves.
1. When we are committing to something, always ensure we are mindfully committed. Do not get committed to something if we are half-hearted on that.
2. We have to be precise on what is that we are committing into. We can use the SMART strategy to assist with this step. Make sure the commitment or goal is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Bound.
3. Let’s determine why exactly we wish to make this commitment. This can be answered by finding out what we will gain through the fulfillment of this commitment.
4. We should examine what are the underlying concerns, hesitations and challenges that might arise in the phase of reaching towards this commitment. By listing them out, we can find a way on how to overcome then.
5. It is also a good idea to share our commitment with the people around us, like to our family members and friends. They can be supportive and we can request them to hold us accountable towards this commitment.
6. Setting up a system that assists in this commitment, such as reminders, schedule time, diary, post-it notes and to-do-list tasks can be a powerful tools too.
7. Last, but not least, self-discipline is an essential element towards fulfillment of a commitment. Discipline requires time, effort and respect within ourselves. Every kept promise to ourselves create more self-trust which builds the foundations of more discipline in the future.
“Honesty is making your words conform to reality. Integrity is making reality conform to your words.”