Edited on August 16, 2017
People’s expectations of relationships seem to be set by Hollywood and social media’s standards, blurring their perception of reality. Sometimes people learn how to have one after going through a bad relationship but more often than not the cycle continues. Read on to find out 6 things happy couples do differently and why you should be doing them differently, too.
1. They aren’t petty.
If the other person hurts them in some way, they don’t try to hurt them back. They don’t seek out revenge or feel the need to “get even”. People in happy relationships can also admit when they are in the wrong, instead of always blaming the other person for any problem that arises. When there is an argument in a happy relationship they figure out a way to resolve it, forgive each other and move on.
2. They don’t break up left and right.
People in happy relationships don’t break up over small things. They value each other and will do anything to avoid losing what they have.
3. They know that love is not enough.
Sure, the idea of love is great. But saying “I love you” is only a phrase if there are no actions behind it. In order to do that, both people need to be unselfish. From praising them to others and writing love notes to being a shoulder to cry on and never abandoning them in their time of need, happy couples show their love for each other often and in many ways.
4. They appreciate what they have in front of them.
They don’t focus on the things the other person doesn’t have or doesn’t do. They don’t compare their relationship to others. Happy couples are grateful and feel satisfied overall with who they chose to be with. They don’t want or need to be with anyone else, even during the rough patches.
5. They respect each other.
Respect is defined as, “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.” It is the most important factor in any relationship. In a happy relationship, there is no physical or verbal abuse and no one has control over the other. Everything is mutual.
6. They grow together.
Happy couples build each other up, they set goals and push each other to accomplish them, all the while cheering them on. They care about their futures, as they may be aligned one day. They want to see each other succeed and do everything they can to support each other. They hold each other accountable and don’t let each other quit.